We’ve all been there; had an audition, really, really wanted the part – then nothing. We wait for days hoping and praying for a call, but in our heart of hearts we know it’s gone to someone else. We ask for feedback – nothing. It’s only when we see the show/programme that we get the ultimate confirmation the role isn’t ours and then (even if we don’t like to admit it) we question everything, so you’re probably wondering why rejection is good….
These are the things I’ve whittled and worried about, maybe you can relate or even add some more to the list in the comments below.
- Whether I’m good enough
- Whether I’ve got the right look for the industry/role
- Whether my agent will drop me because I didn’t get the role
- When and where the next job is going to come from
- What I could have done better/different
- Whether I managed to build a relationship with the casting director in the short amount of time given
- Whether I prepared enough
- What the casting director really thought.
- Why that other actor got the role over me.
The thing is we can whittle and worry all we like but it doesn’t change anything and isn’t helpful (it’s taken me a looooong time to learn this).
Why rejection is good
If you take a closer look at any successful person or company – no matter what the industry – you’ll see they too have had to take the rough with the smooth.
Success is a journey, not a destination is now my mantra because it’s so so true.
Rejection is a lesson; another opportunity to grow, another opportunity to reflect. We’ve had it programmed into us to believe rejection is a bad thing and that we should be successful from the word go. Some of this stems from school (think GCSE’s), some from society and maybe even some from our peers. It’s about time we re-framed this as it would do our productivity and self-esteem wonders.
The next time you have an audition and you don’t land the part observe the thoughts/feelings you get around rejection, ask yourself why you’re even thinking those thoughts and whether they’re useful. Ask yourself what you would do differently in that situation because that’s where the lesson is and that is why rejection is good!
I’ve come to learn it’s no good beating yourself up over something because that bad energy ends up following you into the next audition and the next, until your confidence reaches an all time low. When that happens you’re no good to anyone, least of all yourself.
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